i don't understand.

wesliac:

Why don’t people get why Stefan was so upset after Elena told him about the kiss? I don’t get why people think Stefan lost the ‘right’ to feel anything about her. That is complete bull.

First of all, Elena is not just some object people have a ‘right’ to feel for. She’s a human being. Everyone has the right to feel something for anybody. Nothing can take that away.

Did people actually believe Stefan when he said he didn’t want to be with her anymore, that he didn’t care about her? Did you not see the pain he went through this whole season, knowing that he’s killed so many innocent people? He hates himself. He doesn’t think he deserves Elena’s love. THAT’S why he’s been so.. unlike his old self. He wants Elena to hate him, to forget him, so she can have a better life. A LIFE WHERE SHE ISN’T WITH A VAMPIRE. He knows she never wants to be one.

Now the kiss. I think that kiss hurt him not just because the love of his life kissed his brother, but because he expected more from Damon. The whole reason he ‘left’ and wants to get rid of Klaus is so Elena can have a normal life, a life she has always wanted. She can’t have that normal life with Stefan, with a vampire. Damon is a vampire. Stefan is just disappointed that Damon didn’t clue in that Elena doesn’t want a life full of supernatural beings and kissed her anyways. Damon kissing her doesn’t do anything to help. It just confused her. What hurt Stefan most is that he expected Damon to care more. Why did he kiss Elena, especially after Stefan has done to keep them safe? Why doesn’t Damon feel any sort of guilt? After he got punched, all he did was smirk. Stefan thought Damon would at least respect the fact that Elena is the love of his life and that he even gave HER up to save Damon’s life. 

Stefan made it clear in season two that he didn’t want a repeat of 1864. And now, Damon has sort of made that happen. Now people say that you can’t help who you fall in love with. That is true. But you CAN choose whether or not to act on those feelings. What happened with Katherine broke the brothers apart for years. Katherine severed their relationship. Stefan didn’t want it to happen again. Katherine ultimately made Damon into the person he is, the person that enjoys killing. Stefan feels guilty. Why do you think he keeps saving Damon’s life? He loves him. Even after apologizing, he still feels guilt for turning Damon. Stefan could not make it any clearer that his brother one of the most important people in his life (the other being Elena). He was devastated because that person betrayed him. 

I have also seen people say that Stefan should get angry at Elena instead of Damon. I beg to differ. Don’t people see that Stefan WANTED Elena to move on from him? But with a human, so she could life a life she wanted. He’s angry at Damon, and rightfully so, for making it harder for Elena to do so. 

/rant. umm yeah. that probably didn’t make any sense whatsoever.